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Keeping a Look Out as a Leader

6/28/2025

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I found a logbook the other day from family and friends sailing holidays in 2018 and 2019 which recorded our voyages on yachts we had chartered sailing out of Trogir just North of Split in Croatia. In addition to summarising our daily journeys I found a “Lessons Learned” page where, as the proud holder of an ICC (International Certificate of Competency), which is in effect an international boating licence, I had dutifully recorded things that could be done better. One that struck me now looking back, and which I think has a wider application in our professional lives, was “(6) Keep looking out when mooring”. This may sound obvious but the task of bringing a 40 foot plus sailing yacht into a marina berth is anything but simple. First you usually go in backwards and large sailing yachts are notoriously difficult to handle under power especially in reverse. They only have a single propellor and this tends to pull the boat slightly sideways in one direction because of a phenomenon called prop walk. The larger boat we hired also had what are called bow thrusters which supplement the propeller and push the front of the boat from one side to another. In addition to controlling the engine, steering backwards and operating these bow thrusters, as skipper you have to organise the crew to prepare and then fix two stern mooring lines when the boat arrives at the quayside and then, crucially, grab a rope fixed to the jetty with a boat hook and quickly get this to the front or bow of the boat to secure the yacht to a chain going out into the harbour. All this in some 35 degrees heat after a long day on the water.  And my lesson was that even with all this going on you need as the skipper to keep a look out around you for anything else happening that may affect this difficult operation – like a ferry steaming imperiously out of the harbour, or another boat that has suddenly decided to arrive or leave at this inopportune moment. Or marina staff on the quayside who are trying to “help” by shouting instructions to you in very accented English. Or one of your crew who has not quite understood their role, dropped a mooring warp or boathook in the water, or is trying to perform heroics by leaping for the shore prematurely.

One thing I have learnt the hard way is that it is crucial not leave your station by the wheel and engine controls at this critical time. If you try to let go of the wheel and take over one of the subsidiary “crew roles” rather than getting someone else to do it you invariably lose control of the boat – or in our working world potentially of the meeting or negotiation you are leading. If all else fails you can always go out and try again which can be a better option. I have actually seen a skipper with a very expensive classic yacht do this in a French harbour at Port Grimaud. Even though this may appear at first sight to be embarrassing it is far better than damaging the yacht, neighbouring boats or any of your crew. If a negotiation is collapsing into argument and chaos call a time out and regroup. It is hard to do this or even see the need to do so if you have become too involved in the detail and embroiled in the moment.

In our professional lives as a leader of say a major corporate or commercial transactional team it is important to manage a plethora of moving parts and people and still keep an eye on the bigger picture. If you allow yourself to be drawn too deeply into one particular aspect of the deal and try to take over the roles of team members you can easily jeopardise the larger transaction. As AI says “Professional leaders keeping the bigger picture in mind means they can see how their actions and decisions impact the overall success of a project, team, or organization, rather than getting bogged down in minor details. This ability to see the broader context allows leaders to make more strategic decisions, adapt to challenges, and foster a shared understanding of goals within their team.”

The alternative and the danger here is the temptation to micromanage each member of the team or crew to the detriment of all. See this Forbes article Micromanaging Leaders Are Setting Their Teams Up For Failure which observes “Micromanagement may be one of the most pervasive—and damaging—leadership habits in the workplace. It often comes from a place of good intentions, with leaders wanting to ensure things are done correctly and efficiently. But the result is rarely positive. Micromanagement undermines trust, crushes creativity, and leaves teams disengaged. If you want to see your team thrive, the solution isn’t more oversight—it’s more trust. The key to dismantling micromanagement lies in empowering teams to take ownership of their work.”

It seems that this tendency to both “command” and also “control” comes from some innate lack of confidence in the leader. See this Harvard Business Review article The Anxious Micromanager which suggests “The command-and-control management style has been on the decline for decades. Research has shown that companies perform better when leaders empower, encourage, and coach employees instead of delivering orders, micromanaging, and meting out discipline. Nonetheless, that style remains prevalent. At root, the tendency to micromanage stems from a leader’s own anxiety and lack of confidence. To stop overrelying on a command-and-control style, leaders should look inward to understand what causes it.”

So, what is the way to manage a crew or a team effectively and avoid these pitfalls? Here are some lessons drawn from the RYA and the sailing world generally that I suggest apply equally to our professional business world. 
1. Communication
  • Clear instructions: Use sailing terminology and ensure everyone understands the tasks at hand. 
  • Open communication: Encourage crew members to ask questions and clarify any doubts. 
  • Visual communication: When possible, use visual cues instead of shouting, especially over distances. 
  • Pre-sailing brief: Conduct a thorough briefing before each sail, covering safety procedures, roles, and potential emergency situations like man overboard. 
2. Crew Management
  • Delegate tasks effectively: Assign roles based on crew experience and abilities, ensuring a balanced workload. 
  • Provide guidance: Offer support and direction, especially to those less experienced. 
  • Foster teamwork: Encourage collaboration and mutual support among crew members. 
  • Respectful interactions: Maintain a positive and respectful environment, avoiding shouting or demeaning language. 
3. Leadership
  • Confidence and competence: A competent skipper who is knowledgeable and confident inspires trust and respect. 
  • Problem-solving: Demonstrate the ability to assess situations, make decisions, and solve problems effectively. 
  • Continuous learning: Be willing to learn from mistakes and adapt your approach. 
  • Positive attitude: A calm and positive attitude can help alleviate stress and create a more enjoyable experience for everyone.
It is quite remarkable how many of these recommendations for yacht skippers could have been written by a business management consultant for professional team leaders. The demanding environment on the water applies so aptly to our business world.
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As Ernest Hemingway says: "The sea finds out everything you did wrong."

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Managing Road and Desk Rage

6/14/2025

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I was driving with my son last week to play tennis (he won but I managed to get a few games) when he observed how impatient and generally badly behaved drivers were on the roads these days. I had been thinking something similar but thought maybe this was just down to a more senior prejudice. However, I do think on reflection it is more than this. My son said drivers hooted at him if he did not hurry away from a junction. I slowed down legitimately at a roundabout the other week because I knew drivers rushed around from the right. The guy (or girl) behind me drove very close in a large Range Rover and then aggressively sounded the horn. There seem to be three levels of reaction, sometimes used in combination – flashing lights (mild telling off), sounding the horn (more serious infringement) and finally the waved finger or V sign out of the window (go home and cease driving forthwith!). And I am also guilty – last week a driver in one of our local roads slowed down dramatically for no apparent reason and then turned left with no signal. Annoying but not really worthy of rebuke. To my shame I flashed my lights and hooted the horn. 
Well so what you may say. What especially interests me is not just that this occurs, but why and the potential parallels and lessons for our professional world.  AI suggests that “Road rage, a heightened state of anger and aggression behind the wheel, is often triggered by stressful situations, environmental factors, and perceived rudeness from other drivers. To avoid it, drivers should focus on staying calm, planning their routes, and avoiding aggressive behaviors like tailgating or honking unnecessarily.” There are clearly some behavioural reasons – see this article Psychology Behind Road Rage: Understanding and Mitigating Aggressive Driving Behavior which proposes that  “road rage emerges from a convergence of psychological, emotional, and social factors.” and  observes that “The pervasive culture of competitiveness and impatience on the road, coupled with a lack of effective coping mechanisms, exacerbates aggressive driving tendencies. Moreover, the influence of media and social norms can shape attitudes towards aggressive behaviour, further normalizing road rage.” It then proposes sensible coping mechanisms like breathing exercises and management of time.
All true but I believe these “road rage” incidents in our sophisticated, comfortable connected and air conditioned Twenty First century vehicles are the result of a more primitive reaction to circumstances. We don’t think – we just trigger a fight or flight response. AI again says “When drivers perceive a threat, their bodies release stress hormones, triggering this response and potentially leading to aggressive behaviors. Specifically, the "fight" aspect of the response, where the body prepares to confront a threat, can manifest as anger and aggression on the road.” See this article The Fight Response on the Road AKA Road Rage which says road rage “is caused by a cascade of physiological responses starting with messages from the hypothalamus which sends signals down the spinal cord and out into your body.  These messages tell the adrenal glands to release large quantities of norepinephrine which results in increased alertness, arousal, and attention. It constricts blood vessels which prepares your body to respond by fighting or fleeing. During this acute stress response adrenaline and cortisol are also released into the blood stream, and this all happens about 100 times faster than it took you to read this sentence.”
This Harvard Medical School article Understanding the stress response explains “the "fight-or-flight" response … evolved as a survival mechanism, enabling people and other mammals to react quickly to life-threatening situations. The carefully orchestrated yet near-instantaneous sequence of hormonal changes and physiological responses helps someone to fight the threat off or flee to safety.” We are not consciously aware of these changes. “When someone experiences a stressful event, the amygdala, an area of the brain that contributes to emotional processing, sends a distress signal to the hypothalamus. This area of the brain functions like a command center, communicating with the rest of the body through the nervous system so that the person has the energy to fight or flee.” It 
This is good if you want to instinctively jump out of the way of an oncoming car. It’s also beneficial in sport – my son serves very fast and I don’t have time to consciously think about a return if I have any chance of making it. However, being captive to this automatic trigger event may not be good in a work situation. In say a contract negotiation or some work interaction with a colleague this could cause us to act precipitously and without thought to the detriment of the deal or our professional relationships. Not because we consciously want to, but because we are just “reacting”, or rather in the circumstances “overreacting”. I found this article from the American Psychological Association Road rage, air rage and now 'desk rage' which carried out a survey and found “almost half of those surveyed said yelling and verbal abuse is common in their workplaces” commenting “Dubbed "desk rage" by the popular media--and known to psychologists as counterproductive or deviant workplace behavior--this behavior includes acts of aggression, hostility, rudeness and physical violence.”
The Harvard article suggests this sort of behaviour can result in chronic stress and proposes some ways to manage this including using relaxation techniques like deep breathing. I suggest on reflection that in both the road and work situations there are three potential ways to avoid unwanted if instinctive reactions.
1 Preparation
Well prior to the event recognise it may happen and be ready for it. Just before setting out on a journey in your car take a minute to reflect on how to behave in the quite likely situation that you or another road user will be triggered in this way. In planning a negotiation or performance review look for possible issues where a conflict may arise or personalities clash and consider workarounds to be applied on the day.
2 During the Journey or Negotiation
I took an advance motoring course a few years ago and the instructor suggested a technique that may help here. As you drive provide a spoken commentary on what is happening – “I am approaching a traffic light and slowing down having looked in my mirror etc”. Hard to do with a passenger or all the time, but used selectively it creates a more reflective state. In negotiations have regular time outs and review progress with your team looking out for potential conflict. Maybe have one of your colleagues who is not leading the discussions look out for such a situation developing.
3 At the Time
When the road or desk rage trigger occurs try and at least pause for a few seconds before reacting. This is really hard to do, but if you understand why from a physical perspective you or another road user or colleague is “seeing red” it can make it easier to rationalise this and put it in perspective. In a meeting if a conflict arises take a time out and go and have a coffee. Somehow in our world of Teams calls this seems harder than when you are in the room, but there is really no reason not to call a halt to proceedings and maybe go into virtual breakout sessions to diffuse the situation.
This and similar techniques can all help prevent and manage potentially difficult interactions which actually tend to work to our detriment. 
As the Buddha said “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”

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Enjoy the Moment

6/1/2025

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I watched an incredible tennis match at the French Open this week on Thursday evening when in a very tight four set game the British tennis player Jack Draper beat a resurgent 38-year-old Frenchman Gael Monfils, who played incredible tennis hitting the lines and 20 forehands at over 100 mph. Not surprisingly almost all of the French crowd were vociferously on Monfils’s side. Extraordinary match. In the interview afterwards they asked the winner what it was like playing on Court Philippe-Chartrier for the first time in front of such a packed partisan crowd. These are difficult interviews at the best of times after you have just spent 3 or more physically demanding hours on court and the usual answers are something about their game or thanking their opponent, team and the crowd. Instead Draper responded with something much more inciteful: he said in effect “this is why we put in all the hard work to play tennis at this level and appear in front of and entertain crowds like these”. 
It struck me listening to these admirable sentiments and as I transition from my in-house to consultancy role how important this attitude is in professional life as well as the sporting world. The real reward for us I suggest is not just earning a livelihood, doing the deal or achieving professional (or life) goals important though these can be. It is rather carrying out our professional roles to the absolute best of our ability even or perhaps especially in difficult and trying circumstances – and enjoying and appreciating the opportunity to do this in and of itself. Of course, we are not “playing” in front of 20 thousand partisan fans but nevertheless the stakes for ourselves, our business or our firm in high profile deals can be critical. Profitability, promotion or equity partnership may depend on continuing success. But as Draper suggests this is not the be all or end of it – enjoy and relish the occasion.
AI proposes that “Focusing on enjoying the work itself, rather than solely on the outcome, can lead to increased engagement, satisfaction, and even productivity. It's about finding joy in the process and the development that comes with it, rather than solely chasing the final result.”
This can enhance our ability to perform well at the highest level in the sporting or professional worlds. See this Forbes article The Most Important Ingredient For Employee Engagement—And It’s Not What You Think which suggests fun or enjoyment at work “positively impacts productivity, creativity, and overall job satisfaction”. It suggests that “The human brain is wired to respond positively to fun. When we experience enjoyment, our brains release dopamine, the feel-good neurotransmitter associated with pleasure, motivation, and learning.” 
And this Boston Consulting Group article Enjoying Work Matters More Than You May Realize which based on surveys concludes that while “Employees who enjoy their work are 49% less likely to consider a new job than employees who don’t” nevertheless “Most company leaders simply aren’t thinking deeply—or strategically—about whether their employees find their work interesting, rewarding, or fun.” Their conclusion is “that joy and retention have the same top two blockers: motivation and support. With a better understanding of what employees need—similar to the depth of knowledge that companies seek about their customers—leaders can start to design programs and policies that flip the script. Joy looks different for everyone.”
I know it is easy to dismiss this all as a bit light-hearted and not really a topic for our “serious” and driven business world, but it does seem enjoyment and appreciation of work really matters. See this University of Oxford article Happy workers are 13% more productive which says “Research by Oxford University's Saïd Business School, in collaboration with British multinational telecoms firm BT, has found a conclusive link between happiness and productivity.” “We found that when workers are happier, they work faster by making more calls per hour worked and, importantly, convert more calls to sales”.
So what can we as legal, commercial, finance or technology professionals learn from top tennis players? One attitude that seems key is an ability to cultivate a mindset where they do not just tolerate but actually relish stressful situations. Instead of viewing pressure as a negative, players at this level see it as an opportunity to learn and to show their skills and mental fortitude. See this Insights White paper Mental toughness in tenniswhich has some great quotes from leading tennis players and others on the topic. It proposes that “under these ‘threat conditions’ a negative physiological response occurs where reduced blood flow to the brain and muscles results in poorer decision making, reduced control over thoughts and emotions and ultimately performance suffers as a result.” A positive mental attitude turns this into a challenge or even an opportunity. Serena Williams highlights this when she said “Venus told me the other day that champions don’t get nervous in tight situations”. I think that rather they perform even better, an admirable trait I have certainly seen in top business leaders and professionals who seem to thrive in tough situations which they actually do appear to enjoy.
This topic is perhaps more time focused for a professional sportsperson as by definition their active careers are more limited with Monfils nearing the end of his and Draper at the start. But actually, it is the same for all of us. You can only play so many tennis matches even in a long sporting career. However, there is also a finite number of major transactions you can carry out in a professional working lifetime though this is usually longer. So even in the darkest of late-night hours online or in a law firm office trying to unravel some negotiation Gordian knot, it is worth appreciating like top sports people how fortunate we are to have the opportunity of such rewarding careers and learn to enjoy them in the moment while we can.
“The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle.”Steve Jobs.
“In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.” Albert Einstein.
“Courage is grace under pressure.” Ernest Hemingway.

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